Who should help plan your wedding?
You’re engaged! That is SO exciting, and the intimidating best part of an engagement is making all of the decisions that you will need to make for your big day! We never realize all of the details that go into weddings until we are in the thick of sorting through them. Planning is always better if you have a few trusty guides in your corner, bonus points if they have been through this before. Who exactly should you ask to help plan and who should you simply invite?
Who can/should help?
The first thing to consider when thinking about who you want to bring in on the plans with you is their relationship to you. Your fiancé is of course the number one person who needs to be helping you make decisions as it is their wedding too. Beyond your fiancé the list becomes a bit more flexible. When soliciting the help of others you want to focus on those whose only goal is to take the stress off of you, not to take control. Your options to choose from are typically your best friend, a parent, a sibling, or a different family member. Only ask those that you know will listen to what you both want and try to achieve that end goal. The person you ask to take charge of the actual wedding day itself (checking with vendors, dealing with emergencies, etc.) would ideally be someone who knows your wishes and isn’t in the Wedding Party. Those in the Wedding Party will of course help with the planning and execution of those plans, but the day of their only job is to help out the Happy Couple exclusively. Should you realize that you don’t have anyone that meet that aforementioned criteria you can always hire a Wedding Coordinator or Planner. There are several experienced and lovely wedding professionals in the Indianapolis, Crawfordsville, and Lafayette areas. Here at the Blossom Barn we have an experienced and professional Wedding Coordinator included in the cost of the venue whose only job is to make your wedding as seamless and enjoyable as possible.
Who should only receive an invitation
The people who should only receive an invitation is pretty simple. Anyone who is going to add more work than they are going to take off of you shouldn’t help. Also, be realistic in what you expect from people. We know that your wedding is forefront in your mind, but everyone has lives of their own and expecting them to be at every appointment, every fitting, and every meeting can be overwhelming for them and set you up to be disappointed. Should you ask someone to help and they end up adding stress to the situation do not be afraid to lovingly ask them to step aside. You can simply acknowledge that you know they are trying to help and that you really appreciate it, but there are too many cooks in the kitchen, or you can assign them to a task that is time consuming and cannot be messed up (packing favors, stuffing envelopes, picking up the suits, or flowers, etc.) both can be received well without causing strain to the relationship.
Ultimately, who you ask to help is a personal decision and one that you should have fun making. Your day will be perfect as long as you are enjoying the process, incorporating things into your day that are special or important to you both, and you realize that things will go wrong and being okay with that.